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GenDerations USA/Canada

On June 25, 2015 GenDerations Mentoring Intl. received the 501 c 3 non-profit status in the USA. Currently we are developing numerous aspects of launching the program in Santa Barbara/ California. We conducted two succesful Adult Mentor Training in 2015: "The Mentor Training with Stefan provided me with a new approach, almost a new language of awareness to relate to people and youth specific. It also puts those I relate to into a different position of responding and engaging with me. The Mentor Training has a lasting, positive impact on all my relationships." Jerry Hatchet, Director of Tennis, Knowlwood TC, Montecito, CA

For the summer of 2016 we are planning a mentor training plus an Owl Weekend for 9-12 year olds and their parents/relatives in Santa Barbara. See also the video on the Owl Weekend on the India page.

Here are some additional samples of work with youth in Switzerland and South Africa. 

The Owl Weekend in Ticino/Switzerland


26 participants gathered March 2015 in the Ticino mountains above Lugano and Ascona to recreate the art of being the village. Mothers and fathers as well as their children expressed amazement about the depth of relationships which they were able to build for themselves and witness in others. At the threshold of these children entering into their teenage years this weekend offered a unique opportunity of bonding and sharing along with meaningful play.


“So many thoughts, emotions and even visions have crossed these days after returning from the  Owl-Weekend, but the theme that is more present for Noah than it is for me is the circle. Its strength, the energy contained in it; that was very impressive and remained in us. I quote here some impressions that we would both share with you:

Noah said it was nice to talk in the circle because he felt heard, there were no stops and no judgements.

I would add that the boys had a great opportunity to see adults from a new point of view and perhaps that is unprecedented in their own "truth", their feelings, their emotions openly expressed without ?lters.

Noah was very impressed by these aspects

Claudio Gaia, PhD and son Noah (13), Locarno, Switzerland

“I share my thoughts that immediately came on the evening of our return from the Owl Weekend and that perhaps some of you have already read in my fb page. Thank you again to all and it warms my heart to think we just met.

a hug

when nature teaches through his every gesture
when darkness and silence are real
cry and laugh when they are part of life
when the game and fatigue dance together
when you know who to go to ?nd what you are looking
when everyone knows their value and that of others
when the village meets with each beat of the bell, every smoke signal
then it is
authentic Truth

Cinzia Santos and daughter Julia (9)

The Honeyguide Weekend (same as "The Owl") outside of Johannesburg, South Africa

November 1-3, 2014 in Joburg we conducted the first GenDerations Weekend for 9-12 year old girls AND boys with a co-ed staff of 14 people. The training is called the “Honeyguide Weekend”. Mind you: until starting GenDerations we worked as BoysToMen Joburg exclusively with boys ages 12-17. It was an awesome experience in the African busch. Below are two pictures: 

A group photo and the final circle  where we hold a rope under tension at hip level, so that a participant can walk the rope as a symbolism for how the community got together in trust beyond the generation gap, beyond race and gender. 

Here are a few testimonials on the Honeyguide Weekend: 

“Firstly, huge praise to Stefan for a masterfully led weekend. Stefan, you held a gentle, clear and calm presence for both staff and children, and everyone has reported positive feedback from the weekend. In many cases, children are presenting themselves with a definite sense of a shift. I'm looking forward to this being at least an annual event on the Kairos and Boys to Men calendar.” 

Marc Loon, Director Kairos School and Co-Founder BoysToMen Joburg 

“I had lots of fun on the weekend. I learnt a lot about community, for example: trusting and relying on other people. Some people at school are kinder and more trustworthy towards me. Danica is more open towards to me - so when something's wrong with her and she is unhappy with something i have done, she tells me rather than keeping it to herself.”

Josh (10)

Dear al
Thank you so much for a precious worthwhile weekend.

I asked Koketso what was different, what stayed with him from the weekend. He replied 'it's inside...... it's a smile’. I asked him 'is this smile different from how your smile was before?' 'yes, mommy it's bigger.’ 'what does the smile say?’ 'i am happy' he replied
Thank you and bless you all
with love

Karin Ritchie, mother of Koketso, 9 years old